Mindfulness of Anger
Anger is an unpleasant feeling.
It is like a blazing flame that burns up our self-control and causes us to say and do things that we regret later.
When someone is angry, we can see clearly that he/she is abiding in hell.
Anger and hatred are the materials from which hell is made. A mind without anger is cool , fresh , and sane. The absence of anger is the basis of real happiness , the basis of love and compassion.
When our anger is placed under the lamp of mindfulness, it imediatly begins to lose some of its destructive nature.
We can say to ourselves, “breathing in, I know that anger is in me. Breathing out, I know that I am my anger”. If we follow our breathing closely while we identify and mindfully observe our anger, it can no longer monopolize our conciousness.
Awareness can be called upon to be a companion for our anger.
Our awareness of our anger does not suppress it or drive it out.
It just looks after it. This is a very important principle. Mindfulness is not a judge. It is more like an older sister looking after and comforting her younger sister in an affectionate and caring way. We can concentrate on our breathing in order to maintain this mindfulness and know ourselves fully.
When we are angry, we are not usually inclined to return to ourselves.
We want to think about the person who is making us angry, to think about his hateful aspects- his rudeness, dishonesty , cruely , maliciousness , and so on. The more we think about him, listen to him, or look at him, the more our anger flares. His dishonesty and hatefulness may be real, imaginary , or exaggerated, but in fact, the root of our problem is the anger itself, and we have to come back and look first of all inside ourselves. It is best if we do not listen or look at the person whom we consider to be the cause of our anger.
Like a fireman, we have to pour water on the blaze first and not waste time looking for the one who set the house on fire.
“Breathing in, I know that I am angry. Breathing out, I know that I must put all my energy into caring for my anger.”
So we avoid thinking about the other person, and we refrain from doing or saying anything as long as our anger persists. If we put all our mind into observing our anger, we will avoid doing any damage that we might regret later.
When we are angry, our anger is our very self. To suppress it or chase it away is to suppress or chase away our very self. When we are joyful, we are the joy. When we are angry, we are the anger. When anger is born in us, we can be aware that the anger is an energy in us, and we can accept that energy in order to transform it into another kind of energy. When we have a compost bin filled with organic material which is decomposing and smelly, we know that we can transform the waste into beautiful flowers. At first, we may see the compost and the flowers as opposite, but when we look deeply, we see that the flowers already exist in the compost, and the compost already exist in the flowers. It only takes a couple of weeks for a flower to decompose.
When a good organic gardener looks into her compost, she can see that, and she does not feel sad or disgusted. Instead, she values the rotting material and does not discriminate against it. It takes only a few months for compost to give birth to flowers. We need the insight and non-dual vision of the organic gardener with regard to our anger.
We need not be afraid of it or reject it. We know that the anger can be a kind of compost, and that it is within its power to give birth to something beautiful. We need anger in the way that the organic gardener needs compost. If we know how to accept our anger, we already have some peace and joy.
Gradually we can transform anger completely into peace, love, and understanding.
Thich Nhat Hanh- Peace is every step
